Debt and Sole Childcare: Husband's Despair, "Is Multi-level Marketing His Wife's Religion?"

A husband who works 12 hours a day to pay off debts and raise children, and a wife who has been immersed in network marketing for 10 years. The story of a couple experiencing conflict due to economic burdens and childcare issues was revealed, drawing sympathy. The husband appealed that his wife's activities do not provide practical help to the family, while the wife confessed that she gained comfort and strength there. Oh Eun-young focused on the conflict between the two, who show completely different perceptions of the same situation.

On the 12th, the so-called "Accusation Couple" appeared on the MBC entertainment program 'Oh Eun-young Report: Marriage Hell'. The core conflict of this broadcast was the wife's network marketing activities, which have continued for 10 years. The husband expressed that it is difficult to understand his wife's immersion in said work in a situation where the economic burden to be borne, including the mortgage on the house, is large. On the other hand, for the wife, that activity was not merely a means to earn money.

The wife explained that she studied network marketing in the education field and attended many related lectures. In particular, she caused bewilderment among the cast by stating, "I recharged and healed here." She is of a personality that cannot reveal her inner thoughts to others and suffers alone, but she said she gained comfort and energy during the process of receiving education. While it was a space she could emotionally rely on, to the husband, it appeared as an activity detached from the reality of the household.

The husband's dissatisfaction was focused on economic issues above all else. In a situation where he must pay off the house mortgage and raise several children, the wife's activities do not lead to income. The husband pointed out that the wife is obsessed with network marketing, saying, "It doesn't make any money at all," and described her immersion in the activity as being "like a religious group." What was a space for comfort to the wife was perceived by the husband as a cause of increasing the household burden.

Accordingly, Oh Eun-young examined the nature of the business and the problems the couple is actually experiencing by distinguishing them. She noted that she had investigated the relevant details and stated, "The work the wife is doing was not the illegal pyramid we speak of." The intention was to look accurately into what the core of the conflict is between the couple, rather than making an issue of the multi-level marketing format itself.

Oh Eun-young further analyzed that what the husband is concerned about is not the business form of multi-level marketing itself, but the fact that the activity does not earn money and has a bad influence on the family. Regardless of whether the business is legal, she suggested that whether there is actual income, what kind of burden it places on the household, and whether the family's daily life and childcare are properly maintained must be considered separately. If the couple is talking about different problems, it is also difficult to easily find a solution to the conflict.

The husband's daily life revealed in the broadcast was even more harsh. To support several children, the husband was pouring 12 hours a day into work, doing jobs such as delivery and laundry. To the husband, who works without a moment to rest under the pressure of having to be responsible for the livelihood, the wife's activity felt like a realistic burden. In particular, the husband expressed frustration, thinking that the wife is only immersed in the business at a time when she should be working together to help the household.

The childcare issue was also a factor that increased the conflict. The husband claimed that the wife is neglectful in caring for the children as she spends time on lectures and activities related to network marketing. Feeling that not only the economic burden but also the childcare is concentrated on him, he appealed that a change is needed in the wife's overall lifestyle and habits. Oh Eun-young examined the problems the two are experiencing while taking meticulous notes of the couple's situation.

This story revealed a problem that is difficult to explain simply by pros and cons regarding multi-level marketing businesses. This is because an activity that gives emotional comfort and a sense of belonging to the wife can lead to economic loss and a childcare gap for the husband. The legality of the business alone cannot solve the conflict within the home. Actual income and expenditure, the division of childcare, and the weight of labor borne by each spouse must be examined together. Attention is focused on how these two people, living different realities, can find a point of contact.

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