Brian Joo hesitates to marry over hygiene concerns: 'Enduring it isn't love'

Singer Brian Joo has drawn attention by sharing his candid thoughts on marriage and married life. Questioning the conventional wisdom that true love means embracing every single habit of one's spouse, he revealed his firm views on marriage and individual boundaries.

On the 5th, a video titled "Brian, the Best Friend of the Ex-Boyfriend Who Visited Seo In-young's House (Trash House)" was released on the YouTube channel Gaegwacheonseon Seo In-young. Appearing as a guest, Brian expressed his honest thoughts on marriage, cohabitation, and the necessary distance between spouses.

During the appearance, Brian shared his unique perspective on the common viewpoint that "if you love someone, you must accept everything about them."

"I've heard people say that once you marry, you have to love even the bad things about your spouse, like poop smell, bad breath, or body odor, and I found that funny," he said.

He continued, "It's true that you should be understanding, but do you really have to love it?" He added, "If they say they just went to the bathroom, can't I just say, 'Okay, I'll come by later once the smell has cleared'?" His blunt way of speaking brought laughter to the set.

Brian emphasized that he isn't simply unwilling to accept a partner's flaws, but rather maintains the stance that love and lifestyle habits should be distinguished.

"What kind of love is it if you have to endure my poop smell just because you love me?" he asked, expressing the sentiment that "respecting each other and enduring discomfort are two different matters."

These values were also evident in the discussion regarding a couple's living space. When Seo In-young suggested that it is natural for a married couple to share a room, Brian replied, "I need my own space. I wonder why anyone would touch me while I'm sleeping. I also dislike people who cling to me."

He also confessed that movie-like scenes, such as kissing immediately upon waking up in the morning, feel burdensome in reality. "I can't even tolerate someone leaning in with their lips out saying 'Good morning,'" he said, prompting Seo In-young to laughingly respond, "Oppa, you really should just live alone."

Brian also shared his honest stance on bathroom usage and physiological matters. Seo In-young agreed, saying, "I prefer using separate bathrooms. I also hate it when people fart around me," as the two shared the opinion that personal boundaries are necessary even between spouses.

His reason for not marrying was not simply a lack of interest in dating. Brian revealed an experience where he met a fortune teller in Los Angeles, USA, in the past.

At the time, he was told to "live a joyful and happy life," which he initially interpreted as meaning his lifespan would be short. However, the fortune teller explained it meant "a life with no children and no one by your side."

Unexpectedly, Brian stated that hearing those words actually made him feel more at peace. Rather than accepting a life of living alone negatively, he came to think that he could simply find happiness in a way that suits him.

While Brian's remarks drew laughter through somewhat exaggerated expressions and candid wit, they also reflect changing views on marriage. While there was once a strong perception that marriage requires sharing everything, an increasing number of people now value relationships where even spouses respect each other's individual spaces and lifestyles.

Ultimately, within Brian's joke about "coming by after the smell clears," lies the realistic contemplation of an individual trying to find his own balance between love, sacrifice, and personal happiness.